Special Wednesday

My lady and I had a great day yesterday.  We were both off from work, and so we slept in (relatively speaking) and enjoyed our coffee together. Next, we got ourselves down to the basement for a workout (bike for her, treadmill for me), followed by showering, which left us refreshed and ready for love-making.

I dressed in a purple bralette and panty set, covered by a purple chemise. I was also locked as usual in my 3D printed cage, which is the most comfortable one I own. She wore a somewhat matching bra and panty set, except hers accentuated rather than covered her breasts. She looked magnificent. 

She asked how we're doing on the orgasm ratio, and I told her that we were just barely above 3:1, pretty well below the target of 5:1 that she set, but I reminded her that the goals are there for me to follow and for her to change or deviate from whenever she feels like it. There's not much point in being the dominant partner if you can't just change the rules on a whim, is there?  

We next enjoyed a lengthy session of pussy worship. Methinks I could do that for hours. She unlocked me and proceeded to suck my cock; something she rather loves doing and I would not dream of denying her that pleasure, notwithstanding how much I enjoy it as well. I've mentioned previously that I'm above average in size, about 20 cm (8 in) in length and proportionally thick. My lady has determined that she enjoys taking me all the way into her throat, which is simply amazing on multiple fronts. She gets turned on from doing that, particularly when I am playing with her nipples at the same time. It is the most incredible feeling. She also rode me for a while, and then whispered in my ear that she was going to fuck me.

And so she did. We moved up to a realistic cock that is just marginally shorter than mine, and also slightly less thick. It has an advantage over the pink one we've been using because, even though it's bigger, it is more flexible. She entered me easily after some fingering, and lots of lube. They tell you that anal play requires lots of lube. I can confirm that it makes all the difference. It was easily the most enjoyable fuck she's given me.  While she did so, I sucked on Carl (our large black dildo) and  masturbated. My lady had a vibrating butt plug in her ass, and somehow managed to lodge another dildo in her pussy, held in place by the strap-on harness. We basically had all of our holes filled, except her mouth, which she took advantage of to say lots of dirty things!  

The situation got me fantasizing about Carl being a real guy, inviting us to his place for a party, only to discover that my lady and I were the entertainment for him and several of his friends, which made me rock hard. (Maybe I'll detail out that fantasy in an upcoming post). My lady gave me permission to cum, and so I did. She used my semen to lubricate her clitoris, and came shortly after I did. We cuddled for a while, and just enjoyed being together.

We had lunch, took naps, did some housekeeping, made dinner together, ate, watched some TV and then retired for the night. It was a great day, as I said in the beginning. I love my wife and I love our life. I am a very fortunate person.

Thanks for reading.

Jennifer

Tracking Chastity Time and Orgasms Ratio

I started logging my time locked this year, with the mindset that "what gets measured gets worked."  Starting rather slowly, on January first I locked up at 4:00 PM, thus accumulating only eight hours, and on the second I was locked for fifteen hours. So, out of the gates I was under 50%.  I set an initial goal of 85%, so I had some catching up to do. Over the next seven days, I recorded only nine unlocked hours, and 159 locked, raising my average to just under the 85% target. The next two days saw a decrease to give a small sore spot a chance to recover, but at the same time I also raised the target to 90%.

For the past ten days (through 20 Jan) I was locked for 237 of 240 hours. The only measured unlocked time was while making love with my lady. She likes my cock, and so she unlocks me for her pleasure, although she has indicated that she might sometimes keep me locked and have me strap on a dildo instead. 

I remove my cage every day and give everything a thorough inspection and cleaning while showering (and shaving every two or three days). I am learning to avoid the pinching parts, and keeping things pretty clean. I've been peeing sitting down for years anyway, so there's no issue around that.  I don't count hygiene as unlocked time because I'm counting in units of hours, and the shower only takes ten to fifteen minutes. 

My average for the month is now up to 90.4%.  I may reach 93% if I keep up the last ten days' pace for the next eleven, and unlock only when making love with my lady.

February includes to vacation time, so I expect to set a lower target level, and will lock when I can avoid having TSA ask, "WTF is that?" I don't care to involve non-consenting people in our kink, thank you very much. March brings another set of challenges which I may discuss in a future post. So, we'll see how the year plays out, month by month. I consider 2023 to be a data gathering year that will inform decisions we make about the future.

From what I've read, it's nearly always the man that suggests chastity, and the woman decides to take charge somewhat later, after the benefits to her become more certain and long-lasting. I am sure that it takes a significant commitment on her part to be the keyholder, and perhaps that's something she doesn't want to invest in until she's sure it's going to pay off.

I do enjoy being locked up; I like the comfortable physical feeling of the cage cradling my cock, and the psychological feeling that denied access brings with it, even if this is pretty much self-imposed. I have suggested to my lady several times that she might like to keep her copy of the keys out of my reach, while maintaining the other set for an emergency inside a tamper-evident security device (e.g., the a clear plastic box with numbered plastic locking tags that we already have). While she likes me being locked, she hasn't moved on that aspect of it, so I'll let it go. 

As to lovemaking, I suggested to my lady that she consider an orgasm ratio. After some thought, she decided that five to one is good (in her favor, to be clear). As it stands for the month, we're at seven to two, so for the next few sessions I expect that she will be orgasming and I will be denied. However, we're not beholden to anyone else's rules, so if she decides she wants me to climax, then I will. We'll see how this ratio thing turns out. It's meant to be a turn-on for both of us, and so far it is. She can change the ratio up or down as she pleases, or do away with it as a goal altogether. I'll happily comply, because the huge turn on for a submissive such as myself to give up control and follow her lead.

I enjoy lovemaking when it ends with a crashing orgasm for her, and she tells me, "you aren't cumming today." I am grateful for the journey that we've taken thus far. I was the kinkier one coming into this relationship, but she is the more adventurous one in many other aspects of our lives, and is catching up fast in this one. We're deeply in love and having the time of our lives.

Thanks for reading.

Jennifer

Carl Enters

Disclaimer: The title of this post is deliberately misleading and also a double entendre.  

My lady and I have been loving life, traveling, doing holidays and other vanilla life things in addition to our continued sexual escapades, and these are the excuses I'm using for the long gap in my posts.

The new year has brought on an opportunity for thoughts about how to deepen all aspects of our relationship, and we are taking advantage.  I'll limit this scope in this post to sex-related developments, for the reader's sake (you're welcome).

My lady has really taken to pegging me, and we do it quite regularly now. We've moved up in size from the smallest dildo, a brown one around 13 cm long to a pink one that's around 15 or 16 cm.  We have an array of other dildos, up to our largest one, which we've named Carl (in part because we don't know anyone by that name).

Carl is starting to play a more consistent role in our lovemaking. Carl is a long, rather thick ebony dildo. We decided to give him a name since he normally participates, and it's just easier to assign a name. My lady likes to suck Carl while I watch, because she knows it turns me on a lot. I think she also enjoys it for the thrill in and of itself. The other day she fucked herself with Carl while I watched, still constrained in the cock cage that I've been wearing since the start of the year (that'll be another post) it was really hot. She also likes to put Carl to my lips and watches as I suck him off, telling me that he's going to cum in my mouth. That also gets me going, particularly when my lady is pegging me at the same time. I suppose it would be difficult to argue that I'm hetero based on the above, but I am not attracted to men, and only think of cocks when I'm quite aroused, so if there's a word for that, maybe that's me.

The fantasy of having a large, strong, dominant black man participate in our lovemaking is something we explore frequently in our sessions. I know it might be viewed as either racist or stereotypical. I assure you that we are definitely not the former, and we are aware that the latter is true and I admit that is part of the thrill. The turn on for me has to do with color contrast and the lingering societal taboo of interracial sex (Western society has come a very long way in my lifetime regarding such things, but there is still a long way to go). Anyway, if we can enjoy this fantasy without impacting anyone else, we don't see the harm.  

And while it is just fantasy, I sometimes think that if the perfect circumstances were to present themselves, I would be open to making it a reality. Or not, I don't know if I really could go through with it. That said, the potential - real or imagined - adds fuel to my fire. I do not think my lady would take that step in any circumstance because, unlike me, her higher brain functions continue to work when she is aroused, but it excites me to pretend that she's going to want to do it for real one day.

Of course, moving from fantasy to reality is fraught with risk. In our fantasy, Carl has the psychological and physical traits we desire. He enters and exits at our whim, and he plays by our rules, and is healthy and clean. Of course in reality any third person would be less than physically perfect (as are we), but more importantly their feelings and desires would become a vital part of the equation, and the variability is largely unconstrained and somewhat unpredictable, even if we assume we did careful vetting. Who knows what dynamics might occur, positive or negative? Maybe we'd all get along great, maybe trouble would brew. Way too risky. So, fantasy it remains for now, and likely forever.